Hope & Fear

Basically I would like to get your attention to those two feelings.

I experience Hope - when I feel that something I want will happen.
I experience Fear - when I feel that something I don't want will happen.

This is VERY important to feel it for yourself, explore, observe in everyday situation how those 2 play within. Cause I don't want you to believe me for a word. Look at those things you desire, and look at those you desire not to happen. There are always those 2 strings attached to them. And basically the more value we give to something - the more we hope for it and fear loosing it.

Examples:
Let's say I hope I will get a job that satisfy me.
I also fear I won't find one and will be forced to do a job in which I don't have any interest in.

I have a child, and I hope that it will have a good future and a happy life.
At the same time I fear that it might get sick, something might 'go wrong' something might happen to it or to me - and the child will be alone without any help.

I hope I will pass an exam. I fear I will fail the exam.

I have a nasty disease, I hope I'll get better soon.
I fear I will not get better soon.

I have a car I hope it'll last me for a long time. I fear I might get into a bump, or it breaks down.


So you see, there's always a subject of attention, of value, of interest or identification. Something important according to ones beliefs or thoughts. And a reaction (a feeling) we get from thinking about the wanted result is hope. And when we think about the unwanted result we feel fear.
Those 2 are always together, you can't separate them. They are a great example of polarization. Just like a coin with 2 sides - there are no 1 sided coins (even if the other side might be blank xD).

Now what I would also like to state about it is that both of those feeling are limiting. I mean hope makes us wait for a better outcome that we hope. And fear makes us back off from something. Both assist in stagnation, not moving either direction. And lack of movement is not the only thing they might result in. But stagnation is the common point for BOTH of them. Aside their opposite character they both limit change.

Aside that those 2 (hope and fear) are the main tools to manipulate a human being. Just aside guilt and sorrow. But anyway it gets quite obvious when you look at things while giving attention where hope and fear play out.

Examples:
Let's look on relationships maybe you've experienced it, maybe you were a witness of that. Anyway one person (lets call it A) is doing something hurtful towards his/her partner (that's B) constantly. And the other one (B) is constantly accepting it. Why ? Well just because A said sorry, and promised that it will never happen again. In other words A is giving B a reason to have hope. And B is giving to hope every single time. Why ? Because B is afraid, of being alone, of having no one close, of not having a place to stay - there might be few reasons.

Another 'biggy' is religions. Every religion, plays upon a persons hope that there is 'something else', as well on fear that there is not. People fall for religions because they feed the hope - for eternal life, for ascension, nirvana, prosperous life or prosperous after life. At the same time they comfort the fear of death and life - since it gives a hope that this world have a meaning. Their life have a meaning and reason, and their afterlife will have and they aren't just animated meat. Whatever religion it is it plays upon both of them.

Politicians, they offer people hope for a brighter future. While being aware of the fears of people. That's why aggressive campaign vs your opponent that induces fear into people is so effective. Give them hope and make them fear the other guy or party.

When stuck between hope and fear, many people NEVER even tried to do things they wished. Because they had hope for it - which made them go on and fear which prevented them from attempting to realise what was their wish.